Breast vs Cup vs Bottle

I know. Breast is best!

So when it was clear that my milk supply was slow in arrival and definitely insufficient for the 2 demanding babies, I had no choice but to give in to formula. But i made it very clear to the hospital, cup feeding only, please! I had heard enough about nipple confusion from breastfeeding nazis to know that it was cupfeeding and NO bottle!

That worked all well and good while the nurses were cupfeeding Upin and Ipin. And even though I was given lessons in cupfeeding, I later realised that it is an art that takes time, practice, patience and above all alertness. Cupfeeding is almost impossible when you're continuously feeding 2 babies in a sleep deprived mode. I found that I was pouring more milk down my twin's shirts than into their cute lil mouths!

Cupfeeding lil Upin at a decent hour was manageable most of the time.


Regardless of the challenges, i was determined to continue, even if it meant snapping at my hubby at wee hours of the morning, being short with the twins when they weren't 'cooperating' and feeling increasingly exasperated at my inability to satisfy the appetites of my lil babies.

But when a follow up trip to the pediatrician revealed that the twins were losing weight rather than gaining weight, I had to listen to my husband who softly said, 'We have to think about what is best for the boys, not what is ideal for ourselves'. I also had to listen to the pediatrician AND my obgyn who hinted that if cupfeeding wasn't working, I should think about the bottle.

I caved the next day, when I split a whole cupfull of milk all over lil Ipin's front. I took the bottle out, filled it with formula and gave it to him.

lil Ipin being bottle fed my grandma
I felt guilty for awhile. And fearful that they'll reject my boobie after enjoying the fast flowing milk supply from a bottle. But thankfully, they still want my boobie. Yaay! And now, feeding times are much quicker, I am less stressed out at night and enjoying the mommy experience so much more.

So there.

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Pretty Eveel Adventures: Breast vs Cup vs Bottle

Monday, February 21, 2011

Breast vs Cup vs Bottle

I know. Breast is best!

So when it was clear that my milk supply was slow in arrival and definitely insufficient for the 2 demanding babies, I had no choice but to give in to formula. But i made it very clear to the hospital, cup feeding only, please! I had heard enough about nipple confusion from breastfeeding nazis to know that it was cupfeeding and NO bottle!

That worked all well and good while the nurses were cupfeeding Upin and Ipin. And even though I was given lessons in cupfeeding, I later realised that it is an art that takes time, practice, patience and above all alertness. Cupfeeding is almost impossible when you're continuously feeding 2 babies in a sleep deprived mode. I found that I was pouring more milk down my twin's shirts than into their cute lil mouths!

Cupfeeding lil Upin at a decent hour was manageable most of the time.


Regardless of the challenges, i was determined to continue, even if it meant snapping at my hubby at wee hours of the morning, being short with the twins when they weren't 'cooperating' and feeling increasingly exasperated at my inability to satisfy the appetites of my lil babies.

But when a follow up trip to the pediatrician revealed that the twins were losing weight rather than gaining weight, I had to listen to my husband who softly said, 'We have to think about what is best for the boys, not what is ideal for ourselves'. I also had to listen to the pediatrician AND my obgyn who hinted that if cupfeeding wasn't working, I should think about the bottle.

I caved the next day, when I split a whole cupfull of milk all over lil Ipin's front. I took the bottle out, filled it with formula and gave it to him.

lil Ipin being bottle fed my grandma
I felt guilty for awhile. And fearful that they'll reject my boobie after enjoying the fast flowing milk supply from a bottle. But thankfully, they still want my boobie. Yaay! And now, feeding times are much quicker, I am less stressed out at night and enjoying the mommy experience so much more.

So there.

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3 Comments:

OpenID butterflyrubrics said...

Kak Iva, love your updates!!!

Happy to know you are doing well! Don't be apologetic about the bottle feeding lah, cos no matter what the breastfeeding nazis say, the most important thing about parenting is making informed decisions, and every parent will make decisions that work best for their family. So if bottle feeding works for you, makes you less stressed out and enjoy the babies more, you should do it! Cos stress is the NUMBER ONE BREASTMILK SUPPLY KILLER! You have made an informed choice so just keep a look out for early signs of nipple confusion, sometimes they don't show it immediately but if you are attentive, you will notice signs of them preferring bottle over boobies, and at this point you'd need to ban the bottles for awhile :)

About formula feeding, again its an informed choice but if you intend to breastfeed as much as you can, remember that its a chicken and egg thing lah this milk demand and supply. The more you supplement with formula, the less milk you will produce cos brain is not telling body to produce for two. So try to resort to formula feeds only when you really can't keep up with the two babies, and do so only to satisfy them, and not to make them "kenyang". Slowly but surely, cut down on the formula feeds day by day or you'll never see your breastmilk supply catch up! InshaAllah, its tiring but totally worth it. But again, every parent will make their own feeding decisions :) so do what is best for you and the babies. The benefit of exclusive breastfeeding can't be disputed but not all mommies of twins are able to tahan the endless feeding and pumping, so you need to balance with what keeps you sane ok? Kalau stress, it will affect your milk supply, and make things worst! So enjoy the experience, inshaAllah He will Provide :)

February 21, 2011 at 5:19 PM  
OpenID butterflyrubrics said...

Oh another tip is to pump pump pump for stimulation, cos its likely that due to the babies' slight prematurity, their suckle isn't so strong and therefore not giving your nipples the stimulation that it needs to produce more milk. So pump after every feed, and continue pumping for 5mins after the last drop. You'll see your supply increase quickly over just a couple of days. This is effectively done by many moms of premature twins who are hospitalised for a long time, and they don't get the stimulation cos their babies can't suckle directly. Try it :)

Congrats on your reunion! Your babies are adorable!

February 21, 2011 at 5:27 PM  
Blogger eveeleva said...

Butterflyrubrics: Thanks for your encouragement.

Yes, i do hope to wean them off formula sooner rather than later. But the increase in milk flow is soooooo gosh slow that it can be rather discouraging. I am pumping and pumping after every feed. AND i'm taking like fenugreek, donperidone, drinking papaya soup lah, everything anyone says will increase the flow.

And i do realise it has a lot to do with my psychological confidence to provide for my babies, but i'm encouraged by a mom i met who is expressing for her preemie who is still in NICU and who is being cup-fed. If she can express so much in 20 minutes, I'm sure i'll get there too.

Right now, Twin 1 is better at suckling, he does have a stronger suckle. Twin 2 suckles but I feel he doesn't extract as much. I'm also thankful for the Parentcraft centre at Thomson. I intend to go back next week, and have them weigh the babies before and after a feed, so I know how much I am providing them. If they say it's enough, I think i'd then have the confidence to ditch the formula.

I'm also hoping that our next visit to the Pediatrician on Wed sees the gaining pounds and not losing, or stagnating in weight gain. If they've gained weight, I think I'd also then have more confidence to fully breastfeed or start reducing formula.

I'm definitely not enjoying the heat- especially the pressure from the neneks. Who are always saying- "baby masih lapar!". Never realised how much it would impact me- feeling that I'm inadequatly nourishing my babies.

Boy! Motherhood is really stressful!

February 21, 2011 at 7:05 PM  

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