I attended a cousin's wedding on Sunday. As it was being held at the mosque, I thought I should just wear the tudung (headscarf)
. Not only would it be respectful, it would be most convenient to have the tudung
on instead of just having a scarf to cover my hair when necessary. With the boys and the stuff I have to lug around these days, it was just better to have the think pinned to my head.
|Me in a tudung wearing my kitty cat baju kurung and carrying my Ipin|
What i didn't expect was the response! As there WERE gals who didn't wear the tudung, some family members and friends were taken, somewhat, by surprise. And some even asked me whether I was wearing the tudung
for good, not just for the event!
I don't mind, if you are a close family member or friend to ask me. But there were those who barely know me, and even they had the cheek to ask me!
If I want to wear the tudung
, it is my decision and mine alone. It is of no consequence to you! And so what? Do you behave any differently to me, now that I do or do not wear the tudung
I didn't regret my decision that day. I felt comfortable that I was appropriately dressed for the venue. I didn't feel awkward when I had to go look for a place to change my son and sit at a prayer hall to put Upin to sleep. It was the right thing to do for ME!
And just for the record. NO. I have not put on the tudung
'fulltime'. It is still something I am thinking about and when I do decide to do it, it's not going to make any difference to you anyway!